14 Tactics to Drastically Improve Communication in Relationships

Relationships never exist by themselves in a vacuum. When two emotional beings come together, they bring their own past experiences and expectations. Over time these expectations can strain a relationship and you may feel like your partner doesn’t care because they don’t act the way you think they should.
It can sound like relationships will inevitably deteriorate, but in the corner for relationships is communication. And it is one of the most critical elements in understanding the each other and harmonizing your expectations.

Table of Contents

1. Signs you need to improve communication
2. What effective communication really means
3. 14 Tactics to improve communication in your relationships

Signs you need to improve communication

No matter how long you have been together, even small misunderstandings become mountains when your communication is deficient. Ineffective communication will cause partners to fire insults, retreat from the situation and even emotionally detach from each other.^[1]
What are indicators that you are struggling with communication in your relationship? Consider the following signs:

• You are having trouble getting through to your spouse; you talk about the same issue over and over again without coming to an agreement.
• You seem unable to have a decent conversation without turning it into an argument.
• You fear to bring up certain topics.
• You do not talk meaningfully about anything anymore.

What effective communication really means

The most common myth about communication in relationships is that since you talk to your partner, and you share the same space a lot of the time, you automatically communicate.
Communication is much more than talking and hearing what the other person is saying. It is paying attention, getting your point across clearly, understanding your partner, validating their perspective and getting through to each other in a constructive way.
Also, what do you talk about? If it is always the ‘surfacy topics: ‘How are the kids?’ ‘How is your work?’ ‘How is your mother?’ You are not really communicating.
Effective communication is tough on the issue but soft on the person.
In every communication situation, there are two elements present: Your partner and the issue you are addressing. When you communicate effectively, you are able to be soft on your partner and tough on the issue.

14 Tactics to improve communication in your relationships

Communication will either make or break your relationship. You can improve your relationship today, right now by practicing some of the following strategies of effective communication:

1. Just do it: Communicate!

We are so busy working, checking homework, making dinner, drawing strategic plans… who has the time to talk and tell their partner exactly what is on their mind?
Also, sometimes, even when we have the time, we do not want to open up that can of worms. It is difficult to discuss some subjects, and we are tempted to avoid them. Shutting down your feelings becomes more appealing than having a heated discussion.
Other times we simply expect our partners to know what we are doing, thinking or what we want.
The risk with these approaches is that the tension will continue building and eventually one of you will snap. It is much better to get things out in the open regularly rather than waiting to have big rows that might damage your relationship.
So the first strategy on communication is simple: try it (even when it seems tough, not the right time or not important).

2. Listen actively

One of the most critical aspects of communication is listening. Most times, communication between couple entails each partner trying to get their point across.
Effective communication demands that you become a good listener. What is more, active listening is much more than being quiet.
Listening is a skill that calls for you to develop a genuine interest in your partner. Be curious about your partner’s point of view rather than trying to anticipate every situation.
Active listening involves:^[2]

• Paying attention to your partner.
• Tolerating your silence.
• Paying attention to your partner’s nonverbal communication.
• Reflecting and paraphrasing what your partner is saying: I hear you say you feel angry when I ……….. Is that what you are saying?

Rather than:

• Daydreaming and thinking about other things while your partner is talking.
• Thinking of what you will say next.
• Judging what your partner is saying.
• Listening with another objective other than to understand your partner.

Learn more about how to practice active listening from here:
How to Master Active Listening Skill

3. Pay attention to your non-verbal behavior

A study revealed that nonverbal communication accounts for 55 percent of how you and your partner understand your message.^[3] Communication is much more than what you say. In addition to words, you also communicate through:

• Tone of voice
• Eye contact
• Your gestures
• Posture
• Facial expression
• Nodding
• Clenched jaw
• Balled up fists
• Rolling eyes

If you ignore your nonverbal communication, you may not know that you are communicating messages of anger, distress, disgust or disrespect, and your partner will react to them accordingly.

The greatest problem with communication is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply. – Roy T. Bennett.

4. Show respect

It is essential to maintain and express respect for your spouse at all times. Authors of The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work encourage couples to put the feelings of their partners before their need to be understood.
Even when you are arguing, be careful what you say and how you say it. An angry or dejected partner is less likely to engage in a conversation effectively. Remember, you cannot take back words that you have already uttered.

5. Spend quality time together

Connectedness and communication go together.^[4] Having fun together brings you and your partner closer. The closer you are, the more you are inclined to share your innermost thoughts and feelings.
Pick a common hobby, have regular date nights, spend Sunday afternoon cuddling under the blanket. The more fun you have, the more you will communicate.

6. Be honest with each other

Great communication is anchored on honesty. Speak up when you are hurting, or you disagree with your partner.
Do not pretend to be happy if you are not. Honesty will help you and your partner to solve problems more efficiently.

7. Ensure the timing is correct

While you want to tell your partner everything, it is wise to find the correct time to do so. If it doesn’t seem to be the right time, hold on until you find a time and place that is most appropriate.^[5]
Something that may be rejected if you express it now may be actually heard or considered by your partner if you bring it up at a different time.

8. When you are wrong, own it

Taking responsibility for your actions shows that you are mature. Being defensive will make it difficult for your spouse to raise an issue next time.
Remember, there is no shame in admitting that you made a mistake. What is illogical is adopting an egoistic stance that prevents you and your partner from moving forward.

9. Focus on one issue at a time

Let us say that your partner spent a significant amount of money without consulting you. So you decide to talk about the money. In addition, you talk about how she is not paying attention to you nowadays and how the house has become untidy. Not a great move!
Even if you have many issues that you feel need to be discussed, experts advise that you bring up a maximum of one item per conversation.^[6] If you ignore this rule, you will overwhelm your partner with your avalanche of criticism, and he/she will shut down. Eventually, nothing will be solved.

10. Leave the past where it belongs

An occurrence in the past should remain in the past. It is history. Bringing up past behavior to defend the present day stance hinders your relationship from moving forward.
Once you deal with an issue, forgive and leave it behind if you want to keep your relationship alive.
After an argument, always move forward with a fresh slate. Resurrecting old wounds will increase the intensity of your discussion and steer it in an entirely different direction; far away from a resolution. Let sleeping dogs lie.

11. Prioritize your emotional intimacy

Your intimacy plays a considerable role in your communication. During intimacy, hormones that are responsible for bonding and attachment are released.^[7] The more you are attached to your partner, the better your communication becomes.
Also, discuss your sex life. How many times a week is satisfactory for both parties? What do you need from your partner for a fulfilling sexual experience? Discuss your sexual fantasies as well. If you can talk about sex with your partner, you can talk about anything!

12. Voice your love

Research shows that when you look your partner in the eye even in time of conflict and say, ‘I love you,’ the brain is prompted to release bonding hormones. The hormones make you and your spouse more trusting and create a conducive environment for a conversation even when you are angry, frustrated or disappointed with your partner.
Many spouses only voice their love when they are content with the status of the relationship. Your expression of love for your partner should not be dependent on the atmosphere.

13. Mind your language

Experts say that how you say something is as important as what you say. As such:

• Do not use extremes. Accusations such as, ‘you never,’ ‘you always’ do not add any value to your argument.
• Use ‘I’ statements rather than ‘you.’ No one wants to be labeled negatively or to be condemned. Instead of telling your partner how awful he is, express your own feelings. When you do ‘this’ it makes me feel ‘that.’
• Validate your partner’s feelings. Invalidation happens when you recognize your partner’s feelings but then discount, belittle, ignore or minimize them. Consider the following statements:
  • Your concerns are totally unfounded.
  • Who cares if you are angry?
  • Stop overreacting.
  • Get over it already!

As long as your partner feels that you do not acknowledge the importance of their feelings, you will both be stuck, and you cannot move forward with your communication or your relationship.

14. Focus on the positive

Communication between you and your spouse will be more successful if you adopt a positive attitude. Experts recommend that for any conversation, you should have a 5 to 1 ratio of positive to negative statements.^[8]
Comparing your partner negatively to someone will be counterproductive to your discussion. ‘Why can’t you be more fun like Derek’s girlfriend?’ ‘None of my exes were as stingy as you are.’ You cannot hope to achieve anything out of your spouse when you have are already making them feel so inadequate.
Avoid judgment words and loaded terms: ‘you are acting so childish right now.’ ‘I am so tired of your ‘poor me’ attitude.’ Your partner will respond in anger and you will never get anything resolved.
Couples who know how to communicate effectively are able to nip issues in the bud before they turn into significant relationship eating problems.
Being more intentional about your communication techniques will help to create a safe place in the relationship where all issues can be addressed and solved. Always think carefully about the impact of what you are about to say to your partner.
Prioritize understanding your partner a relationship instead of focusing on winning in your arguments. It is better to be happy than to be right.
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Reference

[1]	^	Psychology Today: Are You a Poor Communicator? How to Improve
[2]	^	Good Therapy: How to Improve Communication with Your Partner—Instantly
[3]	^	Bustle: 15 Little Ways To Improve Communication In Your Relationship
[4]	^	marriage.com: How to Improve Communication with Your Spouse
[5]	^	Manage Your Man: 5 Ways to Get Your Husband to Listen to You After You Make a Mistake
[6]	^	Readers’ Digest: 11 Communication Rules Every Couple Should Follow in Their Relationship
[7]	^	All Pro Dad: 10 Ways to Improve Marriage Communication
[8]	^	BabyCenter: 4 ways to improve communication with your partner

August 17, 2018 ·   0

Khmer Culture of Cambodia

ទូទាំងប្រវត្ដិសាស្ដ្ររបស់ប្រទេសកម្ពុជាសាសនាបានក្លាយជាប្រភពនៃការបំផុសគំនិតវប្បធម៌។ អស់រយៈពេលជិតពីរពាន់ឆ្នាំមកហើយប្រជាជនកម្ពុជាបានបង្កើតជំនឿខ្មែរមួយដែលមានតែមួយគត់ពី syncreticism នៃជំនឿ animistic ជនជាតិដើមភាគតិចនិងសាសនាឥណ្ឌានៃព្រះពុទ្ធសាសនានិងហិណ្ឌូ។ វប្បធម៌និងអារ្យធម៌ឥណ្ឌារួមទាំងភាសានិងសិល្បៈរបស់វាបានទៅដល់អាស៊ីអាគ្នេយ៍ដីគោកនៅជុំវិញសតវត្សទី 1 នៃគ.ស វាត្រូវបានគេជឿថាជាទូទៅពាណិជ្ជករតាមសមុទ្របាននាំគយនិងវប្បធម៌ឥណ្ឌាទៅកាន់កំពង់ផែនៅតាមបណ្តោយឈូងសមុទ្រថៃនិងប៉ាស៊ីហ្វិកដើម្បីធ្វើពាណិជ្ជកម្មជាមួយប្រទេសចិន។ ព្រះរាជាណាចក្រហ៊្វូណនគឺប្រហែលជារដ្ឋខ្មែរទីមួយដែលទទួលបានអត្ថប្រយោជន៍ពីការហូរចូលនៃគំនិតឥណ្ឌា។ ក៏មានឥទ្ធិពលរបស់បារាំងផងដែរ។ Throughout Cambodia's long history, religion has been a major source of cultural inspiration. Over nearly two millennia, Cambodians have developed a unique Khmer belief from the syncreticism of indigenous animistic beliefs and the Indian religions of Buddhism and Hinduism. Indian culture and civilization, including its languages and arts reached mainland Southeast Asia around the 1st century AD. It is generally believed that seafaring merchants brought Indian customs and culture to ports along the Gulf of Thailand and the Pacific en route to trade with China. The Kingdom of Funan was most probably the first Khmer state to benefit from this influx of Indian ideas. There is also French influence as well.

History

Angkor Wat, the most famous Cambodian heritage site.

 យុគសម័យមាសនៃប្រទេសកម្ពុជាគឺនៅចន្លោះសតវត្សទី 9 និងទី 14 ក្នុងអំឡុងពេលសម័យអង្គរដែលក្នុងនោះវាជាអាណាចក្រដែលមានអំណាចនិងរុងរឿងដែលលូតលាស់និងគ្របដណ្តប់ស្ទើរតែគ្រប់តំបន់អាស៊ីអាគ្នេយ៍។ យ៉ាងណាក៏ដោយអង្គរនៅទីបំផុតនឹងដួលរលំក្រោយពីមានការប្រយុទ្ធគ្នាយ៉ាងខ្លាំងក្លារវាងព្រះមហាក្សត្រនិងសង្រ្គាមថេរជាមួយប្រទេសជិតខាងដែលមានអំណាចកាន់តែខ្លាំងឡើងរបស់ខ្លួនជាពិសេសសៀមនិងដាយវៀត។ ប្រាសាទជាច្រើនពីសម័យនេះដូចជាបាយ័ននិងអង្គរវត្តនៅតែមាននៅសព្វថ្ងៃនេះនៅទូទាំងប្រទេសថៃឡាវនិងវៀតណាមជាការរំឭកពីភាពសម្បូរបែបនៃសិល្បៈខ្មែរនិងវប្បធម៌។ ស្នាដៃសិល្បៈស្ថាបត្យកម្មតន្ត្រីនិងរបាំដែលមិនធ្លាប់មានពីមុនមករបស់ប្រទេសកម្ពុជាក្នុងអំឡុងពេលនេះមានឥទិ្ធពលយ៉ាងខ្លាំងទៅលើនគរជិតខាងជាច្រើនដូចជាប្រទេសថៃនិងឡាវ។ ឥទ្ធិពលនៃវប្បធម៌សម័យអង្គរនៅតែអាចឃើញនៅសព្វថ្ងៃនៅក្នុងប្រទេសទាំងនោះពីព្រោះពួកគេមានចរិតលក្ខណៈស្និទ្ធស្នាលជាច្រើនជាមួយកម្ពុជាសព្វថ្ងៃនេះ។

The Golden age of Cambodia was between the 9th and 14th century, during the Angkor period, during which it was a powerful and prosperous empire that flourished and dominated almost all of inland Southeast Asia. However, Angkor would eventually collapse after much in-fighting between royalty and constant warring with its increasingly powerful neighbors, notably Siam and Dai Viet. Many temples from this period however, like Bayon and Angkor Wat still remain today, scattered throughout Thailand, Cambodia, Laos, and Vietnam as a reminder of the grandeur of Khmer arts and culture. Cambodia's unparalleled achievements in art, architectures, music, and dance during this period have had a great influence on many neighboring kingdoms, namely Thailand and Laos. The effect of Angkorian culture can still be seen today in those countries, as they share many close characteristics with current-day Cambodia.

Architecture and housing

Main article: Architecture of Cambodia

Rural style house in Cambodia

The Royal Palace in Phnom Penh

 

ស្ថាបត្យករនិងជាងចម្លាក់ប្រាសាទអង្គរបានបង្កើតប្រាសាទដែលរៀបរាប់អំពីលោហធាតុទូទាំងពិភពលោក។ ការតុបតែងខ្មែរបានទាក់ទាញការបំផុសគំនិតពីសាសនាហើយសត្វនិទានមកពីសាសនាហិណ្ឌូនិងព្រះពុទ្ធសាសនាត្រូវបានឆ្លាក់នៅលើជញ្ជាំង។ ប្រាសាទត្រូវបានកសាងឡើងស្របតាមក្បួននៃស្ថាបត្យកម្មខ្មែរបុរាណដែលបានសរសេរថាប្លង់ប្រាសាទមូលដ្ឋានរួមមានទីសក្ការបូជាកណ្តាលទីធ្លាជញ្ជាំងព័ទ្ធជុំវិញនិងគូរទឹក។ រចនាប័ទ្មខ្មែរប្រើសត្វជាច្រើនពីទេវកថាព្រះពុទ្ធសាសនានិងសាសនាហិណ្ឌូដូចជាព្រះបរមរាជវាំងក្នុងរាជធានីភ្នំពេញប្រើគំនូរដូចជាហ្គូរ៉ាដូជាសត្វស្លាបទេវកថានៅក្នុងសាសនាហិណ្ឌូ។ ស្ថាបត្យកម្មនៃប្រទេសកម្ពុជាបានអភិវឌ្ឍជាដំណាក់កាលក្រោមអំណាចចក្រភពខ្មែរពីសតវត្សទី 9 ដល់ទី 15 ដែលបានថែរក្សានៅក្នុងអគារជាច្រើននៃប្រាសាទអង្គរវត្ត។ សំណល់នៃសំណង់ស្ថាបត្យកម្មនៅសម័យនេះគឺកម្រណាស់ដោយសារអគារសាសនាគ្រាន់តែធ្វើពីថ្មប៉ុណ្ណោះ។ ស្ថាបត្យកម្មនៃសម័យអង្គរបានប្រើប្រាស់លក្ខណៈពិសេសរចនាប័ទ្មរចនាសម្ព័ន្ធនិងរចនាប័ទ្មដែលជាវិធីសាស្រ្តដ៏សំខាន់មួយដែលត្រូវបានប្រើដើម្បីកាលបរិច្ឆេទប្រាសាទជាមួយនឹងសិលាចារឹក។ នៅតំបន់ជនបទសម័យទំនើបប្រទេសកម្ពុជាគ្រួសារនុយក្លេអ៊ែរជាធម្មតារស់នៅក្នុងផ្ទះចតុកោណមួយដែលមានទំហំខុសៗគ្នាពី 4 ទៅ 6 ម៉ែត្រទៅ 6 ទៅ 10 ម៉ែត្រ។ វាត្រូវបានសាងសង់ដោយស៊ុមឈើជាមួយនឹងដំបូលប្រក់ដែលមានរាងទ្រវែងនិងជញ្ជាំងធ្វើពីឫស្សី។ ផ្ទះខ្មែរត្រូវបានគេលើកឡើងជាបីម៉ែត្រដើម្បីការពារពីទឹកជំនន់ប្រចាំឆ្នាំ។ ជណ្តើរពីរឬជណ្តើរឈើអាចផ្តល់លទ្ធភាពដល់ផ្ទះ។ ដំបូលប្រក់ស្បូវហៀរលើជញ្ជាំងផ្ទះការពារផ្ទៃខាងក្នុងពីភ្លៀង។ ជាទូទៅផ្ទះមួយមានបន្ទប់បីដែលត្រូវបានបំបែកដោយភាគឫសឬស្សី។ បន្ទប់ខាងមុខដើរតួជាបន្ទប់ទទួលភ្ញៀវដែលប្រើដើម្បីទទួលភ្ញៀវ។ បន្ទប់បន្ទាប់គឺបន្ទប់គេងរបស់ឪពុកម្ដាយហើយទីបីគឺសម្រាប់កូនស្រីមិនទាន់រៀបការ។ កូន ៗ ដេកលក់គ្រប់ទីកន្លែងដែលពួកគេអាចស្វែងរកកន្លែងទំនេរ។ សមាជិកគ្រួសារនិងអ្នកជិតខាងធ្វើការជាមួយគ្នាដើម្បីសាងសង់ផ្ទះហើយពិធីជប់លៀងផ្ទះសម្បែងត្រូវបានធ្វើឡើងនៅពេលបញ្ចប់។ ផ្ទះរបស់មនុស្សក្រខ្សត់អាចមានបន្ទប់ធំតែមួយប៉ុណ្ណោះ។ អាហារត្រូវបានរៀបចំនៅក្នុងផ្ទះបាយដាច់ដោយឡែកមួយដែលមានទីតាំងនៅជិតផ្ទះប៉ុន្តែជាធម្មតានៅពីក្រោយវា។ បង្គន់អនាម័យមានរណ្តៅដ៏សាមញ្ញនៅក្នុងដីដែលមានទីតាំងស្ថិតនៅឆ្ងាយពីផ្ទះដែលត្រូវបានគ្របដណ្តប់នៅពេលដែលបានបំពេញ។ បសុសត្វណាមួយត្រូវបានទុកនៅក្រោមផ្ទះ។ ផ្ទះចិននិងវៀតណាមនៅតាមទីប្រជុំជននិងភូមិកម្ពុជាជាធម្មតាត្រូវបានសាងសង់ដោយផ្ទាល់នៅលើដីហើយមានក្បឿងដីស៊ីម៉ងត៍ឬក្បឿងដែលអាស្រ័យលើឋានៈសេដ្ឋកិច្ចរបស់ម្ចាស់។ អាគារទីក្រុងនិងអាគារពាណិជ្ជកម្មអាចជាឥដ្ឋ, ផ្ទាំងគំនូរ, ឬឈើ។

The Angkorian architects and sculptors created temples that mapped the cosmic world in stone. Khmer decorations drew inspiration from religion, and mythical creatures from Hinduism and Buddhism were carved on walls. Temples were built in accordance to the rule of ancient Khmer architecture that dictated that a basic temple layout include a central shrine, a courtyard, an enclosing wall, and a moat. Khmer motifs use many creatures from Buddhist and Hindu mythology, like the Royal Palace in Phnom Penh, use motifs such as the garuda, a mythical bird in Hinduism. The architecture of Cambodia developed in stages under the Khmer empire from the 9th to the 15th century, preserved in many buildings of the Angkor temple. The remains of secular architecture from this time are rare, as only religious buildings were made of stone. The architecture of the Angkor period used specific structural features and styles, which are one of the main methods used to date the temples, along with inscriptions.
In modern rural Cambodia, the nuclear family typically lives in a rectangular house that may vary in size from four by six meters to six by ten meters. It is constructed of a wooden frame with gabled thatch roof and walls of woven bamboo. Khmer houses are typically raised as much as three meters on stilts for protection from annual floods. Two ladders or wooden staircases provide access to the house. The steep thatch roof overhanging the house walls protects the interior from rain. Typically a house contains three rooms separated by partitions of woven bamboo. The front room serves as a living room used to receive visitors, the next room is the parents' bedroom, and the third is for unmarried daughters. Sons sleep anywhere they can find space. Family members and neighbors work together to build the house, and a house-raising ceremony is held upon its completion. The houses of poorer persons may contain only a single large room. Food is prepared in a separate kitchen located near the house but usually behind it. Toilet facilities consist of simple pits in the ground, located away from the house, that are covered up when filled. Any livestock is kept below the house. Chinese and Vietnamese houses in Cambodian towns and villages are typically built directly on the ground and have earthen, cement, or tile floors, depending upon the economic status of the owner. Urban housing and commercial buildings may be of brick, masonry, or wood.

Religion

Main article: Religion in Cambodia

Cambodia is predominantly Buddhist with 80% of the population being Theravada Buddhist, 1% Christian and the majority of the remaining population follow Islam, atheism, or animism.

Buddhist nun at Angkor Wat, Siem Reap, Cambodia.

 

សាសនាអ៊ិស្លាមគឺជាសាសនានៃភាគច្រើននៃជនជាតិចាម (ដែលហៅថាខ្មែរអ៊ិស្លាម) និងជនជាតិភាគតិចម៉ាឡេនៅកម្ពុជា។ យោងទៅតាមលោកពុយធាម៉ាមានប្រជាជនម៉ូស្លីមពី 150.000 ទៅ 200.000 នាក់នៅក្នុងប្រទេសកម្ពុជានៅចុងឆ្នាំ 1975 ។ ការធ្វើទុក្ខបុកម្នេញក្រោមរបបខ្មែរក្រហមបានរារាំងតួលេខរបស់ពួកគេហើយនៅចុងទសវត្ស 1980 ពួកគេប្រហែលជាមិនបានទទួលកម្លាំងពីអតីតកាលរបស់ពួកគេទេ។ អ្នកកាន់សាសនាឥស្លាមចាមទាំងអស់សុទ្ធតែជានិកាយស៊ុននីនៃសាលា Shafi'i ។ ពុយធម៌បានបែងចែកពួកចាមមូស្លីមនៅកម្ពុជាទៅជាសាខាប្រពៃណីនិងជាសាខាគ្រិស្តអូស្សូដក់។ គ្រិស្តសាសនាត្រូវបានបញ្ចូលទៅក្នុងប្រទេសកម្ពុជាដោយសាសនទូតរ៉ូម៉ាំងកាតូលិកនៅឆ្នាំ 1660 ។ យ៉ាងណាក៏ដោយវាបានបង្កើតការរីកចម្រើនតិចតួចជាលើកដំបូងជាពិសេសក្នុងចំណោមពុទ្ធសាសនិក។ ក្នុងឆ្នាំ 1972 ប្រហែលជាមានប្រហែល 20.000 នាក់នៅក្នុងប្រទេសកម្ពុជាដែលភាគច្រើនជាពួករ៉ូម៉ាំងកាតូលិក។ យោងតាមស្ថិតិរបស់បុរីវ៉ាទីកង់នៅឆ្នាំ 1953 សមាជិកសាសនាចក្ររ៉ូម៉ាំងកាតូលិកនៅកម្ពុជាមានចំនួន 120.000 នាក់ដែលធ្វើឱ្យសាសនានោះក្លាយជាសាសនាធំទីពីរនៅក្នុងប្រទេស។ នៅខែមេសាឆ្នាំ 1970 មុនពេលធ្វើមាតុភូមិនិវត្តន៍ការប៉ាន់ប្រមាណបង្ហាញថាពួកកាតូលិកប្រហែល 50.000 នាក់ជាជនជាតិវៀតណាម។ ពួកកាតូលិកជាច្រើនដែលនៅសេសសល់នៅកម្ពុជាក្នុងឆ្នាំ 1972 សុទ្ធតែជាជនជាតិអឺរ៉ុប - ភាគច្រើនជាជនជាតិបារាំង។ សកម្មភាពអ្នកផ្សព្វផ្សាយសាសនាប្រូតេស្ដង់អាមេរិកបានកើនឡើងនៅក្នុងប្រទេសកម្ពុជាជាពិសេសក្នុងចំណោមកុលសម្ព័ន្ធភ្នំនិងក្នុងចំណោមចាមបន្ទាប់ពីការបង្កើតសាធារណរដ្ឋខ្មែរ។ ជំរឿនឆ្នាំ 1962 ដែលបានរាយការណ៍ថាមានប្រូតេស្តង់ចំនួន 2000 នៅកម្ពុជានៅតែជាស្ថិតិថ្មីបំផុតសម្រាប់ក្រុម។ ក្រុមអ្នកសង្កេតការណ៍បានរាយការណ៍ថានៅឆ្នាំ 1980 មានពួកគ្រីស្ទានខ្មែរដែលបានចុះបញ្ជីច្រើនជាងជនភៀសខ្លួននៅក្នុងជំរំនៅក្នុងប្រទេសថៃជាងនៅប្រទេសកម្ពុជាមុនឆ្នាំ 1970 ។ Kiernan កត់សម្គាល់ថារហូតមកដល់ខែមិថុនាឆ្នាំ 1980 សេវាប្រូតេស្ដង់ប្រចាំសប្តាហ៍ប្រាំមួយបានធ្វើឡើងនៅរាជធានីភ្នំពេញដោយគ្រូគង្វាលខ្មែរ។ ពួកគេត្រូវបានកាត់បន្ថយទៅជាសេវាកម្មប្រចាំសប្តាហ៍តែមួយបន្ទាប់ពីមានការរំខានពីប៉ូលីស។ [2] មានប្រជាជនកាតូលិកប្រហែល 21,300 នាក់នៅក្នុងប្រទេសកម្ពុជាដែលតំណាងឱ្យត្រឹមតែ 0,15% នៃចំនួនប្រជាជនសរុប។ មិនមានភូមិភាគទេប៉ុន្តែមានយុត្តាធិការដែនដីចំនួនបី - មួយ Apostolic Vicariate និងពីរភូមិភាគអាណាខេត្ត។ ក្រុមកុលសម្ព័ន្ធ Highland ភាគច្រើនមានប្រព័ន្ធសាសនាក្នុងស្រុករបស់ពួកគេប្រហែលជាមានចំនួនតិចជាង 100.000 នាក់។ ខ្មែរឡឺត្រូវបានគេពិពណ៌នាយ៉ាងច្បាស់ថាជាពួកវិញ្ញាណនិយមប៉ុន្តែក្រុមកុលសម្ព័ន្ធភាគច្រើនមានព្រលឹងវិញ្ញាណក្នុងស្រុក។ ជាទូទៅគេឃើញពិភពលោករបស់ពួកគេពោរពេញទៅដោយព្រលឹងជាច្រើនដែលគេមើលមិនឃើញ (ជារឿយៗគេហៅថាយ៉ាង) ខ្លះជាសប្បុរសជន។ ពួកគេភ្ជាប់វិញ្ញាណជាមួយស្រូវដីទឹកភ្លើងភ្លើងថ្មនិងផ្លូវជាដើម។ គ្រូធ្មប់ឬអ្នកឯកទេសនៅតាមភូមិនីមួយៗទាក់ទងវិញ្ញាណទាំងនេះហើយប្រាប់ពីវិធីដើម្បីធ្វើឱ្យពួកគេមានអារម្មណ៍ធូរស្រាល។ នៅពេលមានវិបត្តិឬការផ្លាស់ប្តូរការលះបង់សត្វអាចត្រូវបានធ្វើឡើងដើម្បីបន្ធូរកំហឹងនៃវិញ្ញាណ។ ជារឿយៗជំងឺត្រូវបានគេជឿថាបណ្តាលមកពីវិញ្ញាណអាក្រក់ឬអាបធ្មប់។ កុលសម្ព័ន្ធខ្លះមានបុរសពេទ្យពិសេសឬអ្នកព្រហ្មចារីដែលព្យាបាលអ្នកជំងឺ។ ក្រៅពីជំនឿលើវិញ្ញាណអ្នកភូមិជឿថាមានបំរាមលើវត្ថុឬការអនុវត្តជាច្រើន។ ក្នុងចំណោមខ្មែរឡាយក្រុម Rhade និង Jarai មានឋានានុក្រមនៃការអភិវឌ្ឍយ៉ាងល្អជាមួយអ្នកគ្រប់គ្រងកំពូលម្នាក់នៅក្បាលរបស់ខ្លួន

Buddhism has existed in Cambodia since at least the 5th century CE. Theravada Buddhism has been the Cambodian state religion since the 13th century CE (excepting the Khmer Rouge period), and is currently estimated to be the faith of 90% of the population.^[3]

Visak Bochea commemorates the birth, enlightenment and passing of the Buddha.

Islam is the religion of a majority of the Cham (also called Khmer Islam) and Malay minorities in Cambodia. According to Po Dharma, there were 150,000 to 200,000 Muslims in Cambodia as late as 1975. Persecution under the Khmer Rouge eroded their numbers, however, and by the late 1980s they probably had not regained their former strength. All of the Cham Muslims are Sunnis of the Shafi'i school. Po Dharma divides the Muslim Cham in Cambodia into a traditionalist branch and an orthodox branch.
Christianity was introduced into Cambodia by Roman Catholic missionaries in 1660. However, it made little headway at first, particularly among Buddhists. In 1972 there were probably about 20,000 Christians in Cambodia, most of whom were Roman Catholics. According to Vatican statistics, in 1953, members of the Roman Catholic Church in Cambodia numbered 120,000, making it, at that time, the second largest religion in the country. In April 1970, just before repatriation, estimates indicate that about 50,000 Catholics were Vietnamese. Many of the Catholics remaining in Cambodia in 1972 were Europeans—chiefly French. American Protestant missionary activity increased in Cambodia, especially among some of the hill tribes and among the Cham, after the establishment of the Khmer Republic. The 1962 census, which reported 2,000 Protestants in Cambodia, remains the most recent statistic for the group. Observers reported that in 1980 there were more registered Khmer Christians among the refugees in camps in Thailand than in all of Cambodia before 1970. Kiernan notes that, until June 1980, five weekly Protestant services were held in Phnom Penh by a Khmer pastor, but that they had been reduced to a single weekly service after police harassment.^[2] There are around 21,300 Catholics in Cambodia which represents only 0.15% of the total population. There are no dioceses, but there are three territorial jurisdictions - one Apostolic Vicariate and two Apostolic Prefectures.
Highland tribal groups, most with their own local religious systems, probably number fewer than 100,000 persons. The Khmer Loeu have been loosely described as animists, but most tribal groups have their own pantheon of local spirits. In general they see their world filled with various invisible spirits (often called yang), some benevolent, others malevolent. They associate spirits with rice, soil, water, fire, stones, paths, and so forth. Sorcerers or specialists in each village contact these spirits and prescribe ways to appease them. In times of crisis or change, animal sacrifices may be made to placate the anger of the spirits. Illness is often believed to be caused by evil spirits or sorcerers. Some tribes have special medicine men or shamans who treat the sick. In addition to belief in spirits, villagers believe in taboos on many objects or practices. Among the Khmer Loeu, the Rhade and Jarai groups have a well-developed hierarchy of spirits with a supreme ruler at its head.

August 13, 2018 ·   0

How Fat Kids Are Made by Parents (And How to Make Your Kids Healthy)

Childhood obesity is a menace! And right now, it’s so bad that one out of every five American children is considered clinically obese as early on as primary school.^[1] And although this problem is more prominent in developed and developing countries, it’s an issue of global significance.
Raising fat kids isn’t a pretty sight and certainly no parent wants their children to be overweight or obese. But here’s the kicker – most kids become fat because of their parents!^[2] Yeah…I know you didn’t mean to – but if your kid is fat, you’re mostly responsible.
There’s no need to beat yourself up though, because you can totally redeem yourself – starting today!
In this article, I’ll show you how you’ve been unconsciously making your kid fat, why childhood fatness is such a big deal and most importantly and how to help your kids stay healthy. So, sit back and relax as I take you through practical steps that will help you in raising healthy kids.

Table of Contents

1. Why fatness in kids is such a big deal
2. How parents inadvertently make their kids fat
3. How to help your kids stay healthy
4. The bottom line

Why fatness in kids is such a big deal

Childhood obesity isn’t receiving so much attention for no reason. An overweight or obese child is at an obvious disadvantage for so many reasons. Here are some of them:

It can cause a wide range of health problems.

Excessive weight has been linked to so many health challenges including type-2 diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, asthma,^[3] joint pain and even sleeping disorders.^[4]
By being overweight, your kid has a higher chance of coming down with any of these conditions and that of course, is really bad news.

It increases the risk of obesity and mortality in adulthood.

Research has shown that kids who are clinically obese have a significantly higher chance of being overweight when they become adults.^[5] And unfortunately, obesity has also been linked to increased mortality, which means overweight people tend to have a shorter life span.

It can lead to a low self-esteem and social stigma.

Overweight kids also tend to get bullied in school and this experience can be very traumatic.
As the person gets older, the negative experiences of their childhood and the associated social stigma may result in a low self-esteem and even depression. And in very bad cases, it may even lead to suicide!
Okay, now that we’ve established why fat kids are at an obvious disadvantage, let’s move on to how parents unwittingly get their children fat.

How parents inadvertently make their kids fat

There are so many “regular stuff” that parents do on daily basis that have a direct negative impact on their children’s weight and general health. Some of them include:

Being a bad example

Okay, listen – as a parent, you’re a hero to your kids! That means they watch every move you make and look up to you for everything. So, if you’re an overweight parent, then you’re sending a simple message to your kids – it’s okay to be fat. And since they want to be like you, they also begin to add weight.
In the same way, kids watch the things you do (or don’t do) and will try to emulate you. So, if you’re the type of person who seldom exercises and adores junk foods, your children will most likely follow suit. Unfortunately though, this lifestyle results in fat accumulation, which eventually causes weight problems.

Being “too busy to cook”

Yeah – the world we live in is becoming more and more fast-paced. And if you’re not careful, it’s easy to consider activities like cooking, a time-wasting chore. So, you’d probably prefer asking Alexa to order you a pizza rather than spending 1 hour in the kitchen to prepare a healthy meal.
But here’s the thing – most fast foods qualify as junk foods, which makes them very unhealthy. And if you’re raising your children on a diet of pizza, fries and ice cream, then you can be sure of one thing – you’ll end up with fat kids!

Keeping kids busy with TV

If you condemn your kids to watching TV or playing video games because you’re “too busy” to attend to them, they’ll most likely develop a weight problem down the line. TV is bad for so many reasons. For starters, more TV time encourages a sedentary lifestyle, which directly reduces the amount of time spent on physical activities.^[6]
Furthermore, watching TV for extended periods of time encourages uncontrolled snacking on unhealthy foods, which directly results in fatness. A recent study has also shown that apart from the sedentary lifestyle and snacking induced by TV, the exposure to billions of dollars’ worth of junk food ads also plays a huge role in increasing junk food cravings and consequently fatness.^[7]

Giving unhealthy foods as a reward for a good behavior

When you promise to give your child ice cream as a reward for eating his veggies, he/she immediately gets an impression – ice cream is great and vegetables are just a means to an end. And as your kid continues to live with this notion, the love for junk foods inherently increases and this eventually leads to excessive fat accumulation down the line.

Encouraging kids to stay indoors

While it isn’t a good idea to leave your kids roaming around the neighborhood without supervision, it’s equally a bad idea to keep them confined indoors!
Keeping your kids “locked up” in the house encourages them to be inactive and that can induce weight gain.

How to help your kids stay healthy

Alright! Leaving the negatives behind and moving forward – here are some practical tips that will help you keep your kids healthy.

1. Be a good role model

As I stated earlier, the impact of parents on the lifestyle choices of their children is unquantifiable. So, if you want to help your kids maintain a healthy weight, you need start with yourself.
Go for walks and take your kids along. Eat healthy meals and let them see you do it. As they see you – their hero – doing all the right things, it won’t be long before they follow suit.

2. Give them healthy meals

Alright, this is very important, so pay attention! You are what you eat – the same is true for your kids.
Eating healthy meals is a step you cannot afford to miss if you truly want your kids to maintain a healthy weight. Clean eating is the way to go when it comes to healthy eating, so you may want to start there.

3. Mind the portion sizes

While still on the topic of eating healthy, you need to also pay attention to “how much” food you give your kids.
Family style often makes people fat without you even knowing.
Kids should be encouraged to eat just what they can – not a morsel more! You shouldn’t make your kids clean out their plates because that may increase food cravings as they get older – and that of course, can result in weight problems.

4. Discourage Junk foods

Junk foods are bad…very bad! And you need to pass this message along to your kids in a very convincing manner.
To start with, you need to clean out your pantry and refrigerator, and rid your home of junk foods.
In addition, you should also encourage your kids to go for healthy foods in school when you give them money for snacks.

5. Make regular exercise a part of their routine

So, here’s the deal – if you’re seriously interested in your kids’ health, then you need to encourage them to exercise regularly.
Noticed your son enjoys athletics? Get him on the school’s track team. Your little girl loves volleyball, talk to the school coach and get her on the volleyball team. Go for walks together, run around the house, give them chores to do…
Just do everything you can to keep them physically active! That will help them to consistently burn calories and maintain a healthy weight.

6. Unplug the TV

As stated previously, TV can be very bad for kids. So, you need to limit their TV time as much as humanly possible.
It is recommended that kids have no more than one hour of TV time per day. The same goes for video games, of course!

7. Make bed time mandatory

You may not know this but sleep actually helps in weight loss. So, set a specific bed time for your kids and make sure they stick to it.
Generally, seven to nine hours of sleep is recommended for kids per night. And as they start sleeping better, they’ll start closing in on healthy weight.

8. Check their BMI regularly

If you rely on your eyes to tell when your child is getting fat, I hate to break it to you but you may be terribly deceived.
So, as a more reliable option, check your child’s body mass index (BMI) regularly. This can be done through BMI calculators or at your local clinic.

The bottom line

Now it’s time for you to put all these tips into action — starting today! If you’re not sure whether or not your kids are fat, you should start by checking their BMI.
Then you need to ban junk foods from your home, place your kids on a healthy diet, incorporate exercise into their routine and ward off anything that can send them on a downward spiral of obesity.
You should also remember that you – as a parent – have a massive influence on the lifestyle choices of your kids.
So, be a good role model by maintaining a normal weight yourself. And the end result will be improved health and happiness not only for the kids, but for your entire family.

August 10, 2018 ·   0

រមណីយដ្ឋានទឹកធ្លាក់ ចំបក់ ភ្នំគីរីរម្យ​ (Chambok Kirirom mountain waterfall resort)

សហគមន៍​​អេកូ​ធម្មជាតិ ចំបក់ ជា​រមណីយដ្ឋាន​ធម្មជាតិ​ទាក់​ទាញ​មួយ​​​ក្នុង​ខេត្ត កំពង់​ស្ពឺ​នៅ​ទី​នេះ​មាន​ទេសភាព​ដ៏​ស្រស់​ស្អាត​ដូច​ជា ​ព្រៃ​​ភ្នំ ទឹក​ជ្រោះ​ជា​ច្រើន​កន្លែង នឹង រូង​ប្រជៀវ​ជា​ដើម។ សម្រស់​ធម្មជាតិ​ទាំង​អស់​នេះ បាន​ទាក់ទាញ​ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍​ដែល​មក​កម្សាន្ត ដក់​ជាប់​អារម្មណ៍​ជា​និច្ច។
The Chambok Ecotourism Site is a charming natural resort in Kampong Speu here, with beautiful scenery like the jungle. Mountains, streams, and bricks. All these natural beauty attract tourists who come to stay in touch.
ចំបក់ ស្ថិត​ក្នុង​ទឹក​ដី ភូមិ​ចំបក ឃុំ​ចំបក់ ស្រុក​ភ្នំស្រួច ខេត្ត កំពង់ស្ពឺ ​ជាប់​ព្រំដែន​ឧទ្យាន​ជាតិ​គិរី​រម្យ។ រមណីយដ្ឋាន​មួយ​នេះ​បាន​ដាក់​ឲ្យ​ដំណើរការ​កាល​ពី​ដើម​ឆ្នាំ២០០៣ លើ​ផ្ទៃដី ១៣៩១ ហិតា។ ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍ ​អាច​ធ្វើ​​ដំណើរ​ពី​រាជធានី​ភ្នំពេញ តាម​បណ្ដោយ​​​ផ្លូវជាតិ​លេខ​៤ ត្រង់​គីឡូម៉ែត្រ១៨៥ បទ​ស្ដាំ​ត្រង់​​ត្រែងត្រយឹង ផ្លូវ​ចូល​គិរីរម្យ ​​មាន​ចម្ងាយ​​ប្រហែល​​២០​គីឡូម៉ែត្រ លុះ​ដល់​​ជើងភ្នំ​គិរី​រម្យ​បត់​​ស្កាំ​តាម​ផ្លូវ​ក្រួស​ក្រហម​​ចម្ងាយ​ប្រហែល៨ គីឡូម៉ែត្រ នោះ​យើង​នឹង​ទៅ​ដល់​សហគមន៍​​អេកូ​ធម្មជាតិ ចំបក់ ។   មុន​ចូល​​ទៅ​ដល់​ទៅ​ដល់​កន្លែង​​​ទឹក​ធ្លាក់ ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍ ត្រូវ​ជិះ​រទេះគោ ឬ​ម៉ូតូ​ឌុប ចម្ងាយ​ប្រហែល​ជាង២គីឡូម៉ត្រ បន្ទាប់​មក​ធ្វើ​ដំណើរ​ដោយ​ថ្មើរជើង​ឡើង​លើ​ភ្នំ ជា​ច្រើន​គីឡូម៉ែត្រ​ទៀត​ទើប​ទៅ​ដល់​កន្លែង​កម្សាន្ត​ជា​ច្រើន​ដែល​មាន​ចម្ងាយ​ផ្សេងៗ​គ្នា។ ប្រសិន​បើ​លោក​អ្នក​ចង់​ទៅ​កម្សាន្ត​នៅ​ទី​នេះ គួរតែ​​មក​ថ្ងៃ​​ចុង​សប្ដាហ៍ ឬ ថ្ងៃ​ថ្ងៃ​បុណ្យ​ជាតិ ព្រោះ​​​មាន​​ភ្ញៀវ​​ទៅ​ទស្សនា​ច្រើន នឹង​មាន​អ្នក​ភូមិ​យក​របស់របរ​​​ហូប​ចុក​ទៅ​លក់ ប៉ុន្តែ​បើ​ទៅ​ចំ​ថ្ងៃ ធ្វើការ​អាច​មិន​​ឃើញ​មាន​​ឡើយ ដូច​នេះ​លោក​អ្នក​ត្រូវ​មាន ទឹក ឬ អាហារ ​ជាប់​តាម​ខ្លួន ព្រោះ​ផ្លូវ​ធ្វើ​ដំណើរ​នៅ​កណ្ដាល​ព្រៃ​ជ្រៅ។ 
Chambok is in the territory of Chamkar village, Chambok commune, Phnom Sruoch district, Kampong Speu province, near Kirirom National Park. The resort was launched in early 2003 on 1391 hectares of land. Tourists can travel from Phnom Penh along National Road 4 at 185 Kilometer Right Tram Kiri Kirirom Intersection About 20 kilometers away, at the foot of Kirirom mountain, cleared on the red-gravel road, about 8 km away, we will go To the Chambok Community Eco-Community. Before arriving at the waterfall, tourists must ride a cobbler or motorbike about two kilometers away and then travel Walking several kilometers to the hiking trails of various sights. If you want to visit here, it should be on weekends or holidays, because there are guests Many visitors will have to pick up food for sale, but if they go on vacation they can not see it You need to have water or food trapped because the road is in the middle of the jungle.

លោក​អ្នក​គួរតែ​មាន​ទ្រនាប់​ជើង​​​សម្រាប់​ពាក់​​ឡើង​ភ្នំ​កាន់​តែ​ល្អ ព្រោះ​ត្រូវ​ដើរ​ឡើង​តាម​ផ្លូវ​ច្រើន​គីឡូម៉ែត្រ ​កាត់​ព្រៃ​ឫស្សី ឬ ព្រៃរបោះ​មាន​ថ្ម​តូច​ធំ​ជា​ដើម។ ពេល​ឡើង​​ជិត​ដល់​​ទឹក​ជ្រោះ នីមួយៗ លោក​អ្នក​នឹង​លឺ​សូរ្យ​សំឡេង​ទឹក​ជ្រោះ​ហូរ​មិន​ដាច់ បូក​សំឡេង​សត្វ​បក្សាបក្សី​ជា​ច្រើន​ប្រភេទ ធ្វើ​ឲ្យ​លោក​អ្នក​បាត់​ការ​នឿយ​ហត់។ You should have better footwear for walking up the mountain, because you have to walk several kilometers through the bamboo forest. Or the jungle with small rocks. When you get closer to each drop of water, you will hear the sound of the stream, the stream of water, and the voice of many birds. You lose your job.
តាម​ការ​ឲ្យ​ដឹង​ពី​លោក ទូច ម៉ន ប្រធាន​សហគមន៍​​អេកូ​ធម្មជាតិ ចំបក់ នៅ​ទី​នេះ មាន​កន្លែង​ទេសចរណ៍៥សំខាន់ៗ។   ១/ទឹក​ធ្លាក់​ទី១ មាន​ចម្ងាយ​ពី ចំណត​រទេះ​គោ ១៤៥០ ម៉ែត្រ ២/ ទឹក​ធ្លាក់​ទី២ មាន​ចម្ងាយ​២១០០ ម៉ែត្រ ៣/ ទឹក​ធ្លាក់​ទី៣ មាន​ចម្ងាយ ២៤៥០០ (មាន​ទឹក​ជ្រោះ កម្ពស់ ៤០ ម៉ែត្រ) ៤/ ទឹក​ធ្លាក់​ទី៤ មាន​ចម្ងាយ ៦០០០ ម៉ែត្រ ៥/ រូង​ប្រជៀវ​ មាន​ចម្ងាយ ១៩៥០០ ម៉ែត្រ   ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍​ដែល​ចង់​មក​ទស្សនា​សហគមន៍​​អេកូ​ធម្មជាតិ ចំបក់ ត្រូវ​ទិញ​សំបុត្រ ក្នុង​នេះ​ភ្ញៀវ​ជាតិ​​តម្លៃ ២០០០រៀល ក្នុង​ម្នាក់ ចំពោះ​ភ្ញៀវ​បរទេស១ ដុល្លារ សម្រាប់​កូន​ក្មេង ហើយ​មនុស្ស​ពេញ​​វ័យ ៣ ដុល្លារ។ ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍​អាច​មក​ស្នាក់​នៅ​ទី​នេះ​បាន ព្រោះ​ក្នុង​ភូមិ​មាន​ផ្ទះ​ប្រជា​ពលរដ្ឋ​សម្រាប់​ជួល​ឲ្យ​ស្នាក់​​នៅ (Home Stay)។ តម្លៃ​នៃ​ការ​ស្នាក់​នៅ​​ក៏​ដូច​​ជា​ម្ហូប​អាហារ​ត្រូវ​បាន​កំណត់​ដោត​សហគមន៍ ។ According to Touch Morn, head of the Chambok ecotourism community, there are five main tourist attractions. 1 / Waterfall 1 Distance to 1450 m 2 ox cart 2 / 2nd run 2100 m 3/3 rd water 24500 (with water 40 meter high jaw) 4 / 4th waterfall 6000m 5 / bats distances 19500m Tourists who want to visit the Chambok ecotourum community need to buy tickets in this guesthouse 2,000 Riel per person for 1 USD for the children Children are adults, $ 3. Tourists can stay here because the village houses a home for people to rent (Home Stay). The cost of stays as well as food is limited to the community.

 

ប្រធាន​សហគមន៍​ខាង​លើ​ប្រាប់​ថា ការ​ស្នាក់​នៅ​១យប់ ​មនុស្ស​ម្នាក់​តម្លៃ៤ ដុល្លារ ចំពោះ​អាហារ​វិញ​ចាប់​ពី​មនុស្ស​៥នាក់​ឡើង ពេល​ព្រឹក​ម្នាក់ ២.៥0 ដុល្លារ ពេល​ថ្ងៃ និង ល្ងាច៣.៥០ ដុល្លារ ចំពោះ​​មនុស្ស​​ក្រោម​៥នាក់ ពេល​ព្រឹក​៣ ដុល្លារ ពេល​​ថៃ នឹង ល្ងាច​៤ ដុល្លារ ក្នុង​ម្នាក់។

ដោយសារ សក្ដានុពល​ធម្មជាតិ​ដូច​បាន​រៀប​រាប់​ខាង​លើ បាន​ធ្វើ​ឲ្យ​​ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍​មក​ទស្សនា​នៅ​ទី​នេះ​មិន​ដាច់​ឡើយ ជា​មធ្យម​សហគមន៍​​អេកូ​ធម្មជាតិ ចំបក់ អាច​ទាក់​ទាញ​​ភ្ញៀវ​ទេសចរណ៍​ជាង​១៨០០០នាក់​ក្នុង​មួយ​ឆ្នាំ។ ផែន​ការ​ទៅ​ថ្ងៃ​អនាគត សហគមន៍​គ្រោង​ធ្វើ​ផ្ទះ​សំណាក់​នៅ​ក្នុង​ព្រៃ​តែ​ម្ដង មិន​ឲ្យ​ភ្ញៀវ​ពិបាក​ទៅ​ស្នាក់​នៅ​ផ្ទះ​អ្នក​ភូមិ​ឡើង ជា​មួយ​គ្នា​នោះ​ផ្លូវ​ឡើង​ទៅ​ទី​តាំង​នីមួយៗ​ក៏​មាន​ផែន​ការ អភិវឌ្ឍន៍​ឲ្យ​បាន​ប្រសើរ​ជាង​នេះ​ផង​ដែរ៕

The head of the community said that one night's stay per person cost $ 4 for food, from 5 in the morning. $ 50, day and evening, $ 3.50 for the under five, $ 3 in the morning, $ 4 a night. Due to the above-mentioned natural dynamics, the number of tourists visiting here is not over, on average, the Eco community. Nature Chambok can attract more than 18,000 tourists a year. Plans for the future The community plans to build a guesthouse in the jungle, but it will not be difficult for them to stay in the village Each road to each site also has a better development plan.

August 09, 2018 ·   0

Tmor Loy Kirirom mountain ( ថ្មលយ ភ្នំគីរីរម្យ )

លើភ្នំគីរីរម្យ (ថ្មលយ)ការធ្វើដំណើរលក្ខណះផ្សងព្រេង&
កាត់បន្ថយភាពតានតឺងស្មុកស្មាញទាំងឡាយធ្វើឲ្យយើងស្វែងយល់ពីអ្វីដែលថ្មីបង្ហាញឲ្យអ្នកឃើញពីភាពក្លាហានឆន្ទះនិងជំនឿចិត្តក្នុងការដោះស្រាយបញ្ហាដែលបានជួបប្រទះកំឡុងពេលធ្វើដំណើររបស់អ្នកនិង
ទទួលបាននូវទេសភាពដ៍ស្រស់ស្អាតនៅលើកំពូលភ្នំ។

ភាគច្រើនអ្នកដែលមកលេងគិរីរម្យតែងតម្រង់ទៅកាន់តំបន់ទឹកធ្លាក់ រឺ សួនសិប្បនិមិត្តដើម្បីថតរូបលេងកំសាន្ត។ ប៉ុន្តែអ្វីដែលគ្រប់គ្នាមិនសូវបានមកដល់គឺ តំបន់ថ្មលយនេះឯង​។​ បើតាមសំដីរបស់អ្នកតំបន់នោះ ឈ្មោះថ្មលយនេះគឺដោយសារមានថ្មមួយដុំដែលរាងលយចេញមកក្រៅផុតពីគេនេះហើយបានជាគេហៅថាថ្មលយ។ 

បើតាមរូបភាពនេះមើលទៅវាពិតជារាងស្រៀវនៅពេលដែលយើងអង្គុយ រឺ ឈរមើលទេសភាពទីនោះ ប៉ុន្តែបើសិនជាអ្នកមកដល់ទីនេះហើយមិនបានឈានជំហានមកខាងមុខដើម្បីគយគន់ទេសភាព ដ៍ស្រសត្រកាលនេះ គឺវាពិតជាគួរឲ្យស្តាយណាស់។ ជូរភ្នំខាងមុខដែលបានឃើញនេះជាជួរភ្នំក្រវាញដែលលាតសន្ធឹងនៅភាគនិរតីនៃប្រទេស។ ដោយសារទីនេះស្ថិតនៅលើកំពូលភ្នំ អាកាសធាតុគឺមានភាពត្រជាក់ និង ខ្យល់ខ្លាំងជាពិសេសគឺនៅពេលជិតយប់ និងទាបភ្លឺ។ ដូច្នេះប្រសិនបើអ្នកចង់មកបោះតង់សម្រាកកំសាន្តនៅទីនេះ ណែនាំឲ្យយកភួយក្រាស់ៗមកជាមួយផង!!

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August 08, 2018 ·   1

Culture Khmer Wedding

In Khmer wedding, it has a lot of ceremonies held in chronological orders. They show the historical roots related to the Buddha’s period which existed ages ago. According to a book “Khmer Wedding Rules” of Oknha Nov, it puts that in ancient Khmer wedding laws, people perform a song describing God Vesandor Borom Pothisat arranging the marriage between his children – Chealy and Kroesna. And some other songs are about the marriage arrangement of God Ream and Seda. Oknha Nov wrote that the current wedding preparations are arranged according to the rules drawn up by King Preah Chey Chesda Thebdey.

According to the king’s book, it puts that all ceremonies in Khmer wedding are related to mythical stories such as a story "Som Sla Kanseng". It is told that there were two men who went to feed their buffalos in the field would like to make friends with each other and wanted to be relative by marriage with each other because one had a son and the other had a daughter. In order to prove their words, they ask for betel nuts packed in krama from each other to show their promise that their children would marry to each other.
Another story is “the three betel flowers”. It describes that there were four men who had different skills – swimming, shooting, fortune telling, and magic. After completing their study, they returned home. Along the way back near a stream, the fortune teller said that day they were going to meet a girl and become their wife. Then a big bird swooped down on a girl, Khemry, who was having a bath. Right away the shooting man took his bow and shot the bird down back to the stream.
The swimmer then swam to bring her to the ground but she was just dead. After that the magic man helped her be alive again. All four men felt in love with the lad, so they were judged by the Buddha that she would become a wife of someone who swam to help her because he was able to touch her body first. And the fortune teller, magic man, and shooting man would become the father, mother, and brother respectively. Since then in all weddings, the bride and the groom must have three betel flowers in order to show gratitude towards their parents and brothers/sisters.

Setting-the-date ceremony and the groom holding the scarf are told that Prince Thaong was married to Princess Tevtey, a daughter of the sea dragon king. After setting the date already, Tevtey had to bring him to her father at dragon world, so the sea dragon’s daughter asked the prince to hold her scarf in order to dive into the dragon world. In the meanwhile, the dragon king commanded his man to kill the prince at the gate in order to test the prince’s ability. But the daughter had known this; hence, she disguised herself as the prince by changing her skirt and it was put on the prince instead so that the killer was not able to kill the prince. That is why in the current Khmer wedding it was seen that there is clothes change between the groom and the bride, and the groom holding the bride’s scarf in to the room, accompanied by “Phat Cheay and Neang Neak” songs, etc.

The ceremony called “Chey Haong Sousdey Haong Men Haong” in wedding ceremony performed until now is followed by an ancient story recorded in “the rules of wedding” book. It describes that Once upon a time there were two brothers – Chey and Sousdey. At that time, there was no king to continue after the previous king had died in Cambodia, so the officials in the palace relied on the holy elephant and horse to find a man to be their king. Then the animals approached the brothers’ house. Consequently, they knew that one of the brothers was the suitable man to be crowned. Chey became the king and Sousdey became his assistant at the same time. When crowned, the people whooped to bless the king. They said “Chey Haong Sousdey Haong Men Haong” simultaneously. The blessing is adapted to use in the wedding until now.

"Bongvil Popil" ceremony in the Khmer wedding is also written in “collective Khmer legends” book, volume 9. According to the legend, it is told that once upon a time, there was a man named Chey Sorya who had completed the magic training already from Eyso God, so he asked the God for a sacred relic as a blessing tool for the weddings of human being. Then the God gave the man a replica of his penis and a replica of his wife’s vagina as the blessing tools to spread their reputation in the world. Eyso God took diamond sand from the universe to make a gold banyan leaf representing his wife’s vagina and took a diamond rock from Himalaya Mountain to make a candle representing his penis and supposed them to be “two blessings”. He then told the man to take the candle wrapped in the banyan leaf to circle three times around grooms and brides in order to inhale the smoke making them powerful. The “Popil” ceremony is believed to bring harmony and joyfulness for the new couples making them successful in all challenges. Since Khmer people firmly and sincerely believe in “Popil”, it is performed not only in wedding ceremony but also in other ceremonies such as housewarming, birthday, etc.

"Holding a Sword" tradition in the wedding progress is also told that once upon a time there was a high ranking knight in Peareansey Palace, who fell in love with a daughter of the villager and deposit a piece of gold as a dowry and promised to marry in three months’ time. Three years had gone, so she was married to her neighbor villager but on the wedding day, the knight appeared and took out his sword and killed the man who was the groom. Then the chief clergyman had prayed to dismiss all bad things at the place. The clergyman had analyzed on the power of the sword. That is why people use a sword in the wedding when the bride and the groom are in pair for blessing.
Tradition on Khmer Wedding Season

Wedding ceremony is very meaningful for each of individual’s life who follows their tradition and the laws of the country. That is why this ceremony is carefully dealt with concerning to choosing the date which is believed to bring luck and harmony for the people’s lives and starting a new families. Some families do not allow their children to marry in the rain season and some delay it for two years after the engagement ceremony because of the fortune telling.

According to Mr. Nhean Phoeun, a researcher and publisher of Khmer tradition of national and international festival committee, he said that Khmer tradition allows people to marry only in a period of six months in a year but not the other six. Wedding can be carried out only in the 30-day months. Those six months could be in early May, July, October, January, and March. But for engagement ceremony and matching the natural chemistry between son and daughter, they could be performed in any month.
He continued that for the above months, there are only 7 days of each month that are good days. According to the Khmer tradition, they should not perform on their birthday, religious day, lunar or and solar eclipse, and during Khmer new years.
Actually, the reason people do not get married in the rain season is that there are a lot of rains that make it difficult for the wedding reception, procession, and other ceremonies. It is also difficult for the guests travelling to wedding party and it is when farmers are busy with their fields.

August 08, 2018 ·   0

6 Types of Relationships That Last the Longest and Stay the Strongest

How do you know your relationship will last? How do you know it was meant to be? How do you even know that the current one is ‘the one?’ Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could predict how strong and happy your relationship will be?
Many of us are cautious and even cynical about love. And no one can blame us: all the statistics out there about relationships are really grim. We get into relationships wondering whether they will last; indeed we doubt that they will.
Your relationship can beat the odds.
Contrary to what we have been conditioned to think, love, can last much more than we give it credit for.^[1]
A study that was carried out in 2012 revealed that 40% of couples that had been married for a decade indicated that they were still intensely in love.^[2] In the same study, 40% of women and 34% of the men among couples that had been married for more than 30 years revealed that they were very intensely in love.
Any relationship is a risk but there are signs that indicate that your relationship is harmonious and it will last a long time.
Here are the 6 types of relationships that are successful and lasting (including a few to avoid):

1. Relationships shared around forgiveness

How do you and your partner deal with conflict in the relationship? Misunderstandings are not the problem in a relationship; how you deal with them is the issue.
A strong relationship does not seek to reduce conflict because there is always going to be some.
Daniel Wilde said, “Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems.” There is no partner whom you will not fight with, get annoyed at and complain about. Indeed, fighting is good. Research shows that a couple that is not fighting three years into the marriage has an unhealthy relationship.^[3]
In a stable, healthy marriage, arguing is not a sign of doom; it is healthy and natural. Successful couples focus their attention on solving the issues rather than attacking the other person. Also, when they resolve the matter, they forgive and forget.^[4]
According to Jeanette Raymond, Ph.D. a licensed marriage therapist, the true measure of the strength of your relationship is how fast you reunite after a disagreement. Spouses who are in strong relations take the initiative to invite each other back into their world after a disappointment.^[5]

What to do if you have poor conflicts in your relationship?

Unhealthy relationships are characterized by poor conflict resolution skills.
Do you stay angry with your spouse after you have fought? Do you hold grudges long after you have had misunderstandings? Do you ignore essential issues by sweeping them under the rug? Or do you freeze emotionally and shut down when your spouse has wronged you?
The need to reestablish the emotional connection between you and your spouse and to the desire to restore security in your relationship must override your hurt feelings.
Many times, we must choose between being right and being happy. Holding a grudge will breed resentment, which will in turn destroy your marriage.
It is not about what you fight about, it is how you fight.

2. Relationships that are based on an adventure

Boredom can be a massive obstacle to a lasting relationship. After a period of marriage, it is easy for couples to get into these grey areas where everything is repetitive, predictable, uninteresting and boring.
Between careers, kids and all the side hustles, it can be challenging to stay connected to your partner.
Research shows that couples who enjoy the most intense love are those who enjoy participating in new or challenging activities together. New activities are arousing, which your brain can misinterpret as an attraction to your partner; and reignite the original spark. Seeking adventure is an excellent way to shake it up.

What to do if you feel bored in your relationship?

A study revealed that couples are happier with their relationship after taking part in exciting activities.^[6]
New experiences have been found to activate the brains reward system. Novelty floods the brain with dopamine and norepinephrine. These are the same hormones that are released during the early days of romantic love. Doing exciting things together will bring back the excitement you felt on your first date.

3. Relationships that are built around intimacy

Marriage therapists indicate that a couple who are unhappy with their sex life will strain in their relationship and could even be headed to a split.^[7] Sex is essential in cultivating a thriving relationship.
And it gets even more interesting: the more you have sex, the more you want it. The opposite is also true; the less you have sex, the less you want it, and the less you feel connected to your spouse.
Sex boosts the chemical of love. During sex, oxytocin is released.^[8] Oxytocin is referred to as the bonding hormone. Very happy couples have sex on average 74 times a year.

What if you aren’t having lots of sex in your relationship?

If you are worried that you are not having enough sex, you will be pleased to know that intimacy is not all about sex. Oxytocin is released when touching, holding hands, cuddling and during extended loving eyes contact. Research shows that a man’s’ oxytocin levels go up by 500 percent after making love.^[9]

4. Relationships based on trust

Trust is the most important predictor of long-term relationship success. A relationship will not be strong if there is no trust between the partners.
Is your partner dependable and reliable? Can you count on them?
What about you to your partner? Are you trustworthy? Do you hide purchases? Do you have online relationships that your partner is not aware of? Are you hiding your true feelings from your partner?
Couples in strong relationships do not keep secrets.

What if you have little secrets in your relationship?

Do not be paranoid. Do not focus on the small things where your partner has not been completely honest.
Instead, focus on the big things: Maybe he told you he is a lawyer only to discover later he never passed the bar! Or she said she loves children but later on insists that she would never want to have one.
If you have no belief and trust in your partner, they will never believe in themselves!

5. Relationships that are built around a shared future

For a long-lasting healthy relationship, the more the similarity, the better.^[10] Partners should especially be secure that their values and goals match before they embark on a relationship.
Research done interviewing couples that had been married for 43 years on average revealed that sharing core values, interests and having a similar outlook on life will stack the odds in your favor. A 2009 research study also revealed that that happier couples have the most similar personalities.^[11]
All the couples indicated one thing: opposites attract in the movies, but they do not make great marriage partners.
Evidence suggests that people like dissimilar partners more and find them more stimulating but only when the relationships are short term.
For long-term relationships, greater similarity translates into more staying power of the relationship.

What if you aren’t sure about your relationship goals?

Common goals work together make your lives together work in harmony.
What are your goals as a couple? Do you want to start a family together? Are you planning to own a house? How many children do you want? These kinds of common goals will help to strengthen your relationship.
If you ever find that in your mind, intentionally or subconsciously, you do not want your partner to participate in your plans, it is a sign that it is time for you to move on.

6. Relationships that are based on shared vulnerability

Why do many people find falling in love so scary? Why are people afraid of commitment? It is because of an intense fear of vulnerability.
Here’s the thing: many people want relationships, but they are so scared of opening up and being hurt.
Research shows that people fear vulnerability because of the fear of rejection. There is the fear that if someone finds that we are not as perfect, intelligent or strong as we appear to be, they will no longer like us.^[12]
Unfortunately, we cannot build healthy relationships without vulnerability. Vulnerability is the secret to a strong connection. To know that someone loves you for who you are and to love someone else in all their vulnerability is one of life’s most fulfilling experiences.
The fear of vulnerability is a self-sabotaging trait. Your fear of vulnerability will prevent you from being totally engaged in the relationship.

How to know if you and your partner can embrace vulnerability in the relationship?

You can find out if you are afraid of being vulnerable by answering the following questions:

• Do you fear to expose some parts of your personality that you think your partner may find unacceptable?
• Does keeping your distance from your partner make you feel safe and in control?
• Are you embarrassed about exposing your true feelings and discussing difficult topics?
• Do you have this intense fear that your partner will betray or abandon you?
• Have you been picking partners who are wrong for you in a bid to stay safe by distancing yourself?

Vulnerability can often be seen as a sign of weakness, but it is actually a strength. It takes tremendous strength, character, and self-confidence to be vulnerable. A genuine partner will respect you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable.
Being vulnerable is very attractive. Honest people are drawn to people who are really authentic and imperfect

A lasting relationship is what you make

Ultimately, be committed to your relationship. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
The biggest killer of relationships is the comparison with those around us. Other couples always seem more beautiful and happier than us.
A happy couple does not look to see what is happening on the other side. They are content with the view out their own front door.
Put in the effort and time and you will get your relationship right where you want it.
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Reference

[1]	^	HuffPost: The Psychology Of Loves That Last A Lifetime
[2]	^	Psychology Today: The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships
[3]	^	Eric Barker: How to Make a Relationship Last: 5 Secrets Backed by Research
[4]	^	Psychology Today: 7 Keys to Long-Term Relationship Success
[5]	^	Prevention: 9 Ways Therapists Can Tell If Your Relationship Won’t Work
[6]	^	J Pers Soc Psychol. 2000 Feb;78(2):273-84.: Couples’ shared participation in novel and arousing activities and experienced relationship quality.
[7]	^	Bustle: 10 Habits of Couples in Strong and Healthy Relationships
[8]	^	Shape: 10 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last
[9]	^	The New York Times: How to Have a Better Relationship
[10]	^	Today: How to find lifetime love: 10 secrets from couples married for decades
[11]	^	Today: Opposites attract? Why you should date someone more like you
[12]	^	Psychology Today: The Real Secret To Intimacy (and Why It Scares Us)

August 04, 2018 ·   0